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Empathy Batch dan En Ab Aziz Yatim

Alhamdulillah.....semester 5 sudah pun berlalu dengan penuh kisah kehidupan.., namun perjuangan tidak terhenti di sini...kerana perjuangan kami sebagai bakal kaunselor sebenarnya baru bermula. Di bawah subjek Pengurusan dan Konsultasi Sekolah yang telah dipegang oleh En Ab Aziz Yatim, pensyarah kaunseling Universiti Pendidikan Sultan Idris kami telah dilatih selama beberapa bulan untuk 'menyerang' sekolah-sekolah berhampiran UPSI bagi melaksanakan program-program motivasi.

Melalui subjek ini, kami telah diberi beberapa tugasan dan dihantar ke beberapa sekolah mengikut kumpulan untuk merasai sendiri cabaran-cabaran sebagai kaunselor dalam bidang pendidikan dan bagaimana cara mendekati pelajar mengikur kewajaran semasa. Aspek pertama ialah persediaan, di mana kami perlu bersedia dari segi emosi, fizikal, pengalaman, pengetahuan, kemahiran sebagai kaunselor dan lain-lain lagi. Dalam aspek persediaan ini, cabaran paling sukar bagi kami ialah pengurusan. kami perlu mencari sekolah dengan usaha kami sendiri, berbincang secara profesional dengan mereka yang lebih berpengatahuan dan menyediakan kumpulan kami sebagai konsultan sebenar dari segi pengurusan, pengendalian dan penyediaan. Memang agak sukar untuk mencari sekolah bagi kami melaksanakn program, masalah dari segi masa, penerimaan dan kos.

Program-program dibuat perlu dijalankan sebelum hari raya aidilfitri, oleh itu terdapat juga beberapa kumpulan yang terpaksa menjalankan program pada bulan puasa, termasuklah kumpulan saya. Sewaktu melaksanakan program ini banyak perkara yang perlu kami tempuhi contohnya pengangkutan ke tapak program. Ada yang hanya menaiki bas awam, kereta api, sewa kereta dan ada juga yang berjaya mendapatkan bantuan bas daripada universiti. Bagi kami, penginapan dan makanan bukanlah masalah besar. Cukup sekadar ada dan boleh didiami. Ada juga beberapa kumpulan yang hanya tidur di kelas atau pejabat sekolah tanpa tilam dan bantal, beratur bersama peserta untuk mandi dan menggunakan tandas. Sebelum program bermula, kami selalu berbincang secara tidak formal sesama rakan sekelas...cukup bagi kami, kami diterima untuk melaksanakan program, peserta mempunyai penginapan dan makanan, dan jika kami terpaksa menyediakan makanan sendiri pun kami sanggup waktu itu. Namun ada juga beberapa pihak yang meminta kami mencari sponsor makanan untuk sekolah...dan kami terpaksa menolak kerana itu diluar tanggunggjawab kami.

Kami telah diminta untuk melihat dan mencatat apa-apa yang berlaku sepanjang pegurusan program ini daripada saat pertama berhubung hinggalah kami memutuskan hubungan secara profesional dengan pihak konsultee. Permasalahan-permasalan itu akan dibincangkan bersama 103 orang lagi rakan-rakan yang lain bersama dengan En. Aziz. Seperti kata en Aziz, jika kumpulan kami ada 11 kumpulan ibarat kami menjalankan 11 program kerana setiap satu akan membentangkan laporan dan berkongsi apa yang telah berlaku sama ada daripada pihak sekolah, guru-guru, peserta dan mereka yang membantu secara tidak rasmi seperti mak cik dewan makan, pak guard, dan tukang kebun. En. Aziz menekankan yang setiap kumpulan perlu menyiapkan laporan, montaj dan beberapa bahan lain untuk diserahkan kepada pihak sekolah sebelum kami balik. Alhamdulillah semua kumpulan dapat menyiapkan laporan dan beberapa bahan lain sebaik sahaja program berakhir untuk diserahkan kepada pihak sekolah.

Kepuasan pelanggan juga merupakan salah satu perkara yang perlu dititikberatkan...kami diminta untuk membuat soal selidik tentang program yang dijalankan. Daripada laporan setiap kumpulan yang dibentangkan, hampir 90 % peserta dan konsultee berpuas hati dan menyatakan yang program tersebut berjaya dan menyeronokkan.

Berikut merupakan produk En. Ab Aziz Yatim

42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself

Source: Celestine
(The writer of 'The Personal Excellence Blog' on how to achieve our highest potential and live our best life)

Are you someone who likes to grow? Do you constantly seek to improve yourself and become better?

If you do, then we have something in common. I’m very passionate about personal growth. It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and helping others grow. At that time, I was 22 and in my final year of university. As I thought about the meaning of life, I realized there was nothing more meaningful than to pursue a life of development and betterment. It is through improving ourselves that we get the most out of life.

After 1.5 years of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my personal development blog, I realize there is never an end to the journey of self improvement. The more I grow, the more I realize there is so much out there I don’t know, so much that I have to learn. For sure, there is always something about ourselves we can improve on. The human potential is limitless, so it’s impossible to reach a point of no growth. Whenever we think we are good, we can be even better.

As a passionate advocate of growth, I’m continuously looking for ways to self-improve. I’ve compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your personal growth journey. Some of them are simple steps which you can engage in immediately. Some are bigger steps which takes conscious effort to act on. Here they are:

1. Read a book every day. Books are concentrated sources of wisdom. The more books you read, the more wisdom you expose yourself to. What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself? Some books I’ve read and found useful are Think and Grow Rich, Who Moved My Cheese, 7 Habits, The Science of Getting Rich and Living the 80/20 Way. I’ve heard positive reviews for The Tipping Point, Outliers and The Difference Maker, so I’ll be checking them out soon.

2. Learn a new language. As a Singaporean Chinese, my main languages are English, Mandarin and Hokkien (a Chinese dialect). Out of interest, I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian. I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind-opening experience.

3. Pick up a new hobby. Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn? Examples are fencing, golf, rock climbing, football, canoeing, or ice skating. Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby. For example, pottery, Italian cooking, dancing, wine appreciation, web design, etc. Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or emotionally.

4. Take up a new course. Is there any new course you can join? Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills. It doesn’t have to be a long-term course – seminars or workshops serve their purpose too. I’ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before.

5. Create an inspirational room. Your environment sets the mood and tone for you. If you are living in an inspirational environment, you are going to be inspired every day. In the past, I didn’t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull. A few years ago, I decided this was the end of it – I started on a “Mega Room Revamp” project and overhauled my room. The end result? A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day.

6. Overcome your fears. All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing. Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. I always think of fears as the compass for growth. If I have a fear about something, it represents something I’ve yet to address, and addressing it helps me to grow.

7. Level up your skills. If you have played video games before especially RPGs, you’ll know the concept of leveling up – gaining experience so you can be better and stronger. As a blogger, I’m constantly leveling up my writing skills. As a speaker, I’m constantly leveling up my public engagement abilities. What skills can you level up?

8. Wake up early. Waking up early (say, 5-6am) has been acknowledged by many (Anthony Robbins, Robin Sharma, among other self-help gurus) to improve your productivity and your quality of life. I feel it’s because when you wake up early, your mindset is already set to continue the momentum and proactively live out the day. Seth recently wrote a waking up early series which you should check out to help cultivate this habit.

9. Have a weekly exercise routine. A better you starts with being in better physical shape. I personally make it a point to jog at least 3 times a week, at least 30 minutes each time. You may want to mix it up with jogging, gym lessons and swimming for variation.

10. Start your life handbook. A life handbook is an idea I started 3 years ago. Basically, it’s a book which contains the essentials on how you can live your life to the fullest, such as your purpose, your values and goals. Sort of like your manual for your life. I started my life handbook since 2007 and it’s been a crucial enabler in my progress.

11. Write a letter to your future self. What do you see yourself as 5 years from now? Will you be the same? Different? What kind of person will you be? Write a letter to your future self – 1 year from now will be a good start – and seal it. Make a date in your calendar to open it 1 year from now. Then start working to become the person you want to open that letter.

12. Get out of your comfort zone. Real growth comes with hard work and sweat. Being too comfortable doesn’t help us grow – it makes us stagnate. What is your comfort zone? Do you stay in most of the time? Do you keep to your own space when out with other people? Shake your routine up. Do something different. By exposing yourself to a new context, you’re literally growing as you learn to act in new circumstances.

13. Put someone up to a challenge. Competition is one of the best ways to grow. Set a challenge (weight loss, exercise, financial challenge, etc) and compete with an interested friend to see who achieves the target first. Through the process, both of you will gain more than if you were to set off on the target alone.

14. Identify your blind spots. Scientifically, blind spots refer to areas our eyes are not capable of seeing. In personal development terms, blind spots are things about ourselves we are unaware of. Discovering our blind spots help us discover our areas of improvement. One exercise I use to discover my blind spots is to identify all the things/events/people that trigger me in a day – trigger meaning making me feel annoyed/weird/affected. These represent my blind spots. It’s always fun to do the exercise because I discover new things about myself, even if I may already think I know my own blind spots (but then they wouldn’t be blind spots would they?). After that, I work on steps to address them.

15. Ask for feedback. As much as we try to improve, we will always have blind spots. Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective. Some people to approach will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively.

16. Stay focused with to-do lists. I start my day with a list of tasks I want to complete and this helps make me stay focused. In comparison, the days when I don’t do this end up being extremely unproductive. For example, part of my to-do list for today is to write a guest post at LifeHack.Org, and this is why I’m writing this now! Since my work requires me to use my computer all the time, I use Free Sticky Notes to manage my to-do lists. It’s really simple to use and it’s a freeware, so I recommend you check it out.

17. Set Big Hairy Audacious Goals (BHAGs). I’m a big fan of setting BHAGs. BHAGs stretch you beyond your normal capacity since they are big and audacious – you wouldn’t think of attempting them normally. What are BHAGs you can embark on, which you’ll feel absolutely on top of the world once you complete them? Set them and start working on them.

18. Acknowledge your flaws. Everyone has flaws. What’s most important is to understand them, acknowledge them, and address them. What do you think are your flaws? What are the flaws you can work on now? How do you want to address them?
19. Get into action. The best way to learn and improve is to take action. What is something you have been meaning to do? How can you take action on it immediately? Waiting doesn’t get anything done. Taking action gives you immediate results to learn from.

20. Learn from people who inspire you. Think about people you admire. People who inspire you. These people reflect certain qualities you want to have for yourself too. What are the qualities in them you want to have for yourself? How can you acquire these qualities?

21. Quit a bad habit. Are there any bad habits you can lose? Oversleeping? Not exercising? Being late? Slouching? Nail biting? Smoking? Here’s some help on how you can quit a bad habit.

22. Cultivate a new habit. Some good new habits to cultivate include reading books (#1), waking up early (#8), exercising (#9), reading a new personal development article a day (#40) and meditating. Is there any other new habit you can cultivate to improve yourself?

23. Avoid negative people. As Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. Wherever we go, there are bound to be negative people. Don’t spend too much of your time around them if you feel they drag you down.

24. Learn to deal with difficult people. There are times when there are difficult people you can’t avoid, such as at your workplace, or when the person is part of your inner circle of contacts. Learn how to deal with them. These people management skills will go a long way in working with people in the future.

25. Learn from your friends. Everyone has amazing qualities in them. It’s up to how we want to tap into them. With all the friends who surround you, they are going to have things you can learn from. Try thinking of a good friend right now. Think about just one quality they have which you want to adopt. How can you learn from them and adopt this skill for yourself? Speak to them if you need to – for sure, they will be more than happy to help!

26. Start a journal. Journaling is a great way to gain better self-awareness. It’s a self-reflection process. As you write, clarify your thought process and read what you wrote from a third person’s perspective, you gain more insights about yourself. Your journal can be private or an online blog. I use my personal development blog as a personal journal too and I’ve learned a lot about myself through the past year of blogging.

27. Start a blog about personal development. To help others grow, you need to first be walking the talk. There are expectations of you, both from yourself and from others, which you have to uphold. I run The Personal Excellence Blog, where I share my personal journey and insights on how to live a better life. Readers look toward my articles to improve themselves, which enforces to me that I need to keep improving, for myself and for the people I’m reaching out to.

28. Get a mentor or coach. There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Many of my clients approach me to coach them in their goals and they achieve significantly more results than if they had worked alone.

29. Reduce the time you spend on chat programs. I realized having chat programs open at default result in a lot of wasted time. This time can be much better spent on other activities. The days when I don’t get on chat, I get a lot more done. I usually disable the auto start-up option in the chat programs and launch them when I do want to chat and really have the time for it.

30. Learn chess (or any strategy game). I found chess is a terrific game to learn strategy and hone your brainpower. Not only do you have fun, you also get to exercise your analytical skills. You can also learn strategy from other board games or computer games, such as Othello, Chinese Chess, WarCraft, and so on.

31. Stop watching TV. I’ve not been watching TV for pretty much 4 years and it’s been a very liberating experience. I realized most of the programs and advertisements on mainstream TV are usually of a lower consciousness and not very empowering. In return, the time I’ve freed up from not watching TV is now constructively used for other purposes, such as connecting with close friends, doing work I enjoy, exercising, etc.

32. Start a 30-day challenge. Set a goal and give yourself 30 days to achieve this. Your goal can be to stick with a new habit or something you’ve always wanted to do but have not. 30 days is just enough time to strategize, plan, get into action, review and nail the goal.

33. Meditate. Meditation helps to calm you and be more conscious. I also realized that during the nights when I meditate (before I sleep), I need lesser sleep. The clutter clearing process is very liberating.

34. Join Toastmasters (Learn public speaking). Interestingly, public speaking is the #1 fear in the world, with #2 being death. After I started public speaking as a personal development speaker/trainer, I’ve learned a lot about how to communicate better, present myself and engage people. Toastmasters is an international organization that trains people in public speaking. Check out the Toastmaster clubs nearest to you here.

35. Befriend top people in their fields. These people have achieved their results because they have the right attitudes, skill sets and know-how. How better to learn than from the people who have been there and done that? Gain new insights from them on how you can improve and achieve the same results for yourself.

36. Let go of the past. Is there any grievance or unhappiness from the past which you have been holding on? If so, it’s time to let it go. Holding on to them prevents you from moving on and becoming a better person. Break away from the past, forgive yourself, and move on. Just recently, I finally moved on from a past heartbreak of 5 years ago. The effect was liberating and very empowering, and I have never been happier.

37. Start a business venture. Is there anything you have an interest in? Why not turn it into a venture and make money while learning at the same time? Starting a new venture requires you to be learn business management skills, develop business acumen and have a competitive edge. The process of starting and developing my personal development business has equipped me with many skills, such as self-discipline, leadership, organization and management.

38. Show kindness to people around you. You can never be too kind to someone. In fact, most of us don’t show enough kindness to people around us. Being kind helps us to cultivate other qualities such as compassion, patience, and love. As you get back to your day after reading this article later on, start exuding more kindness to the people around you, and see how they react. Not only that, notice how you feel as you behave kindly to others. Chances are, you will feel even better than yourself.

39. Reach out to the people who hate you. If you ever stand for something, you are going to get haters. It’s easy to hate the people who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back. Being able to forgive, let go and show love to these people requires magnanimity and an open heart. Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out to them. Show them love. Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances. Even if they refuses to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more liberating than to hate them back.

40. Take a break. Have you been working too hard? Self-improvement is also about recognizing our need to take a break to walk the longer mile ahead. You can’t be driving a car if it has no petrol. Take some time off for yourself every week. Relax, rejuvenate and charge yourself up for what’s up ahead.

41. Read at least 1 personal development article a day. Some of my readers make it a point to read at least one personal development article every day, which I think is a great habit. There are many terrific personal development blogs out there, some of which you can check here.

42. Commit to your personal growth. I can be writing list articles with 10 ways, 25 ways, 42 ways or even 1,000 ways to improve yourself, but if you’ve no intention to commit to your personal growth, it doesn’t matter what I write. Nothing is going to get through. We are responsible for our personal growth – not anyone else. Not your mom, your dad, your friend, me or LifeHack. Make the decision to commit to your personal growth and embrace yourself to a life-long journey of growth and change. Kick off your growth by picking a few of the steps above and working on them. The results may not be immediate, but I promise you that as long as you keep to it, you’ll start seeing positive changes in yourself and your life.


From: Dr.Mercola
(Dr. Mercola has made significant milestones in his mission to bring people practical solutions to their health problems. A New York Times Best Selling Author, Dr. Mercola was also voted the 2009 Ultimate Wellness Game Changer by the Huffington Post, and has been featured in TIME magazine, LA Times, CNN, Fox News, ABC News, Today Show, CBS’s Washington Unplugged with Sharyl Attkisson, and other major media resources.)

Feelings of loneliness are incredibly common, and, ironically, even as the physical distance between people has shrunk, emotional “isolation” is on the rise.

Up to one-quarter of Americans say they are frequently lonely, and this number is expected to rise in coming years. Loneliness expert John Cacioppo, a social neuroscientist at the University of Chicago, credits the rising rates of loneliness to two major factors: longer lifespans leading to more years in widowhood and a rise in single-person households.

Of course, it’s possible to feel lonely even when you’re surrounded by people, and although many do, few will readily admit it. Our society has developed as one that values self-reliance and independence, so much so that a person may feel ashamed of their need for companionship.

This need, however, is quite natural and if not fulfilled over time can lead to a host of mental and physical problems. While most everyone feels lonely from time to time, staying lonely can take a major toll on your physical health.

How Loneliness Harms Your Health

Negative emotions will invariably impact your physical well-being, and loneliness is no different. The latest research reveals that feeling lonely raises your blood pressure up to 14 points, with greater increases coming the more years the lonely feelings persist.

This is far from the only study linking loneliness to health repercussions. A separate study found the risk of developing dementia increased about 51 percent for each one-point increase on a loneliness scale.

What’s interesting, though, is that brain deposits that normally develop in Alzheimer’s patients were not seen among those who were lonely, indicating that the emotion triggers dementia through a different mechanism such as higher levels of stress hormones, cancer or high blood pressure (all of which are more likely to occur in lonely people).

Other studies have also shown that being socially isolated can cause health problems including weakening your immune system and resulting in sleep dysfunctions.

Further, in what Cacioppo described as "slowly unfolding pathophysiological processes," his research demonstrated that people who are lonely are more likely to:

* Be depressed
* Suffer from alcoholism
* Report higher levels of perceived stress
* Have fewer positive social interactions

More Evidence of Your Mind-Body Connection

It truly is amazing how much your mindset can influence your physical health, but study after study continues to bear this out. Your mind-body connection is a powerful force that can either bolster or destroy your health.

One reason for this has to do with epigenetics, which centers on the notion that environmental factors such as stress and your diet influence the expression of your genes.

It is the expression of your genes -- NOT the genes themselves -- that dictates whether you develop certain diseases or age prematurely.

You see, as you age your genome does not change but your epigenome changes dramatically, especially during critical periods of life, such as adolescence. It is influenced by physical and emotional stresses -- how you respond to everything that happens in your environment, from climate change to final exams to childhood abuse.

So if you are chronically lonely, this negative emotion will influence the expression of your genes, and thus directly impact your tendency to develop disease.

This also explains why, as Dawson Church cites in his book The Genie in Your Genes: Epigenetic Medicine and the New Biology of Intention, heart surgery patients who have a strong social support network and spiritual practice have a mortality rate 1/7th of those who do not!

Outstanding Solution -- Companion Pets

A dog or cat can provide unconditional love and comfort, and studies show that owning a pet can help protect against loneliness, depression and anxiety. In fact, dogs are often brought to nursing homes, hospice settings and hospitals for this very reason.

The bond that forms between a person and a companion pet can be incredibly fulfilling, and serves, in many ways, as an important and rewarding relationship. As the American Veterinary Medical Association states:

“The human-animal bond is a mutually beneficial and dynamic relationship between people and animals that is influenced by behaviors that are essential to the health and well-being of both. This includes, but is not limited to, emotional, psychological, and physical interactions of people, animals, and the environment.”

The research on this is really quite profound. For instance, having a dog as a companion could add years to your life, as studies have shown that owning a dog played a significant role on survival rates in heart attack victims.

Studies have also revealed that people on Medicaid or Medicare who own a pet make fewer visits to the doctor. The unconditional acceptance and love a dog gives to their owner positively impacts their owner's emotional health in ways such as:

* Boosting self-confidence and self-esteem
* Promoting communication between elderly residents and neighbors
* Helping people cope with illness, loss and depression.
* Reducing stress levels
* Helping to meet new friends
* Providing a source of touch and affiliation

Along with companionship, dogs and cats satisfy our human need for close physical contact and touching. This actually works on a hormonal level, as well as an emotional one.

Research from the University of Missouri-Columbia suggests the hormonal changes that occur when humans and dogs interact could help people cope with depression and certain stress-related disorders. An example of this is spending a few minutes petting your dog -- this simple act prompts the release of a number of "feel good" hormones in humans, including serotonin, prolactin and oxytocin.

If you’re looking to add a new furry member to your family, check out your local animal shelter. Most are filled with cats and dogs looking for someone to love. Petfinder.com is also an excellent resource for finding a pet companion … it allows you to search through nearly 300,000 adoptable pets from over 13,000 adoption groups so you can find just the right match for you.

Other Tips for Overcoming Loneliness

As I said earlier, it is completely natural to crave companionship. You are a social creature that thrives on social support and meaningful personal relationships.

That said, the road to overcoming loneliness is two-fold:

* Creating more fulfilling social ties
* Learning to enjoy your alone time

For the latter, I suggest putting some attention on your emotional energy. It is likely that you need to let go of some of your limiting beliefs, stress, and also your past emotional "baggage," all of which may be keeping you in a lonely emotional state.

I believe that Meridian Tapping Technique/Emotional Freedom Technique (MTT/EFT) can be highly effective for this purpose, and can be a key player in your journey to finding your own inner happiness.

Now, once you are feeling secure with yourself, it’s time to devote some attention to creating new relationships. This doesn’t have to be as daunting as it may sound, no matter what stage of life you are in. I recommend:

* Exploring new hobbies and interests that ignite your natural curiosity and passions. Deep friendships naturally form among people with similar interests.
* Volunteering or joining a club or organization in your area. Book clubs, adult sports leagues, holistic moms groups, even food coops can all lead to new relationships.
* Making an effort to re-establish old relationships and cultivate new ones. This could be with family you’ve lost touch with, friends from college, or a new neighbor across the street. The Internet is also an increasingly popular way to meet new people!

Tercicir tetapi berjaya

Sumber: Fadzli Abu Bakar.blogspot

Saya tertarik dengan sebuah rencana dari akhbar Mingguan Malaysia pada 24 Oktober 2010 yang ditulis oleh Hafizahril Ahmad. Saya kongsikan rencana tersebut di sini untuk kita hayati bersama...

"RAMAI yang beranggapan ilmu adalah kunci kejayaan dalam hidup. Telah terbentuk dalam pemikiran hampir semua kita untuk berjaya mesti belajar sampai ke universiti. Setelah menamatkan pengajian maka hidup mereka akan lebih terjamin dan masa depan yang lebih gemilang menanti untuk diterokai.

Oleh sebab itu kita tidak boleh salahkan sesiapa waima ibu bapa jika mereka menuntut anak-anak mereka supaya menamatkan pengajian.

Namun sehingga sekarang ramai yang masih keliru dengan apa yang dimaksudkan dengan ilmu. Apakah sekadar menamatkan pengajian sudah cukup untuk mendabik dada bahawa diri mereka sudah terlalu bijak dan berjaya.

Ramai juga yang masih terumbang ambing setelah menamatkan pengajian sama ada dalam mencari pekerjaan, membina kerjaya mahupun mencari matlamat hidup.

Sesungguhnya ilmu yang diperoleh ketika di universiti adalah sekadar landasan kukuh untuk menempa hidup yang lebih baik namun tidak semestinya ia mampu melakar yang terbaik.

Sementelah pengalaman hidup yang diperoleh sama ada melalui kejayaan mahupun kegagalan adalah ilmu paling baik pernah diterima manusia dalam membentuk diri menjadi lebih sempurna.

Jika tidak kenapa begitu ramai manusia yang berjaya malah ada yang sehingga menjadi antara manusia terkaya dunia sebenarnya tidak menamatkan pengajian di peringkat universiti mahupun sekolah menengah.

Lihat saja barisan manusia terkaya dunia ramai di antara mereka sebenarnya tidak menamatkan pengajian atau persekolahan seperti mana yang dilalui oleh Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson. Keadaan ini juga berlaku kepada mereka yang lebih senior seperti Walt Disney, Henry Ford, Ingvar Kamprad atau generasi muda sekarang seperti Mark Zuckerberg, dan beberapa nama lagi.

Melihat kepada barisan generasi yang menempa nama dalam dunia perniagaan sehingga ada yang bergelar bilionair, pastinya kisah bagaimana mereka bermula adalah sesuatu yang menarik untuk diperkatakan.

Apatah lagi mereka ini bermula tanpa sebarang sijil ditangan malah "hanyut" ketika disekolah lagi.

Generasi terawal ini seperti Walt Disney, Henry Ford mahupun taikun perjudian Malaysia, mendiang Tan Sri Lim Goh Tong semuanya memiliki satu persamaan tidak menamatkan persekolahan atas faktor kemiskinan.

Melihat kepada apa yang berlaku kepada Henry Ford yang menawan dunia dengan penciptaan kereta murah Model T, beliau sememangnya mencipta kejayaan dari bawah.

Tidak menamatkan persekolahan apabila mencecah usia 16 tahun, lelaki yang dilahirkan pada 30 Julai 1863, kemudian bekerja sebagai jurumesin dan sebelum berhijrah menjadi mekanik yang pakar dalam enjin stim.

Beliau membuktikan tanpa pelajaran yang tinggi namun berjaya menjadi jurutera di Edison Illuminating Company yang dimiliki oleh pencipta terkenal, Thomas Edison.

Dengan sokongan kewangan dari beberapa jutawan seperti Alexander Y. Malcomson, John dan Horace E. Dodge Ford mula membina model kereta Ford 999. Namun impak besar mula dirasai setelah Model T dikeluarkan pada 1908.

Kejayaan yang dicipta oleh beliau ini juga mencatat sejarah bermulanya pengeluaran kereta secara besar-besaran. Ini kemudian membolehkan beliau menjadi antara bilionair terawal dunia sebelum kematiannya pada 1947 dengan aset dan wang tunai mencecah AS$188.1 bilion (RM601 bilion), jumlah berdasarkan tahun 2008.

Begitu juga kisah yang berlaku pada pengarah, penerbit dan pengasas taman tema Disneyland, Walter Elias "Walt" Disney yang tidak menamatkan sekolah apabila mencecah usia 16 tahun.

Bagi lelaki yang mempunyai susur galur dari Ireland ini, kejayaan yang diraih tidak mengubah imej dan karakter beliau yang senantiasa merendah diri.

Sebaik berhenti sekolah beliau mendaftarkan diri untuk menjadi tentera namun ditolak kerana bawah umur dan kemudian bekerja sebagai pemandu ambulans di Palang Merah.


Disney memulakan karier dalam bidang perfileman terutama dalam industri kartun dan animasi dari bawah. Bermula sebagai pelukis kartun untuk majalah dan suratkhabar, syarikat pengiklanan, malah pernah jatuh bankrap kerana gagal mengurus kewangan syarikat animasi miliknya Laugh-O-Gram Studio dengan baik.

Namun pengalaman yang dilalui ketika susah menjadi ilmu paling berharga sehingga membolehkan empayar perniagaannya berkembang seperti mana yang kita lihat sekarang.

Disney kemudiannya mencipta nama di Hoolywood melalui pelbagai animasi yang mencuit selera penonton antaranya Mickey Mouse, Snow White, Donald Duck dan pelbagai lagi.

Meneruskan legasi jutawan yang tidak menamatkan pendidikan, antara yang paling paling menonjol dalam generasi seterusnya adalah pengasas syarikat IKEA, Ingvar Kamprad.

Beliau yang kini berusia 84 tahun memulakan perniagaan pada usia muda dengan menjual pelbagai barangan yang dibeli pada harga yang murah kepada kenalan dan ahli keluarga.

Selepas berhenti sekolah pada usia 17 tahun, beliau telah membuka IKEA dengan pemberian wang oleh bapanya berikutan keputusan cemerlang dalam peperiksaan.

Pada awalnya perniagaan tersebut telah menjual pelbagai barangan namun kemudian bertumpu kepada perabot sejak 1947.

Nama IKEA yang diambil dari cantuman namanya IK- Ingvar Kampard dan E-Elmtaryd nama ladang ketika kecil dan A-Agunnaryd, nama perkampungan asalnya, telah memberi tuah kepadanya sehingga membolehkan beliau menduduki tempat ke 11 orang terkaya dunia dengan aset sebanyak AS$23 bilion (RM73.6 bilion).

Begitu juga beberapa nama dari Asia seperti Li Ka-shing yang kini menduduki tempat ke 14 terkaya dunia.

Merantau pada usia yang muda ke Hong Kong walaupun dilahirkan di Guangdong, China, kemudian kematian bapa ketika berusia 15 tahun telah memaksa beliau berhenti sekolah dan bekerja di sebuah kilang plastik.

Hasil dari kepayahan hidup telah memberi beliau pengalaman luas dan kemudian memulakan perniagaan pertama, Cheung Kong Industri pada 1950 dalam bidang barangan plastik sebelum berkembang dalam pelbagai industri lain seperti hartanah, tenaga, telekomunikasi dan pelbagai lagi.

Bagi generasi seterusnya nama-nama mereka yang tercicir ketika pengajian tidak lagi perlu diperkenalkan. Antaranya Bill Gates dan rakannya Paul Allen yang berhenti belajar di Harvard untuk menumpukan perhatian dalam pembangunan perisian komputer pada 1975.

Pada tahun yang sama beliau menubuhkan Micro-soft dan kini syarikat tersebut telah membantu beliau menjadi antara orang paling kaya di dunia.


Begitu juga yang berlaku kepada seorang lagi tokoh industri teknologi maklumat Steve Jobs. Pada penghujung 1970-an, Jobs, dengan pengasas bersama Apple Steve Wozniak dan Mike Markkula telah mereka bentuk, membina dan memasarkan komputer peribadi pertama di dunia.

Setelah keluar dari Apple pada 1985 akibat perebutan kuasa dan masuk kembali pada 1996, beliau kini membuktikan tindakan meninggalkan pengajiannya satu ketika dahulu telah berjaya membuahkan hasil yang sangat lumayan.

Begitu juga yang berlaku kepada pengasas Virgin Records, Richard Branson. Walaupun bapa dan datuknya merupakan hakim-hakim terkenal dan berpengaruh di England namun jejak itu tidak terdapat pada Branson.

Beliau menamatkan persekolahan pada usia 16 tahun dan kemudian menerbitkan majalah Student sebelum membuka syarikat rakaman Virgin Records pada 1982.

Jenama Virgin semakin mengembang pada 1980-an dengan tertubuhnya Virgin Atlantic Air dan kini sudah mula terlibat dalam pelancongan ke angkasa lepas untuk masa depan.

Bagi generasi yang lebih muda mungkin mereka mengagumi pemuda seperti Mark Zuckerberg yang kini menakluk dunia melalui facebook.

Beliau yang hanya berusia 26 tahun juga tidak menamatkan pengajian di Harvard kerana mahu mengembangkan potensi facebook.

Facebook mula diperkenalkan dari bilik asrama Zuckerberg ketika menuntut di Universiti Harvard pada Februari 2004 sebelum ia tersebar ke universiti dan kolej-kolej lain seperti Stanford, Dartmouth, Columbia, New York University, Cornell, Brown dan Yale.

Melihat kepada kejayaan yang diperoleh kesemua tokoh yang dinyatakan, pastinya kejayaan mereka berlandaskan kepada kesungguhan usaha, kreativiti, sifat percaya kepada kebolehan dan keupayaan diri.

Mungkin ada yang berpandangan selepas ini tidak perlu lagi untuk belajar tinggi kerana semua orang boleh berjaya. Namun kita perlu bertanya balik dari berbilion penduduk dunia hanya beberapa kerat sahaja yang terpilih untuk berjaya tanpa pelajaran tinggi.

Mungkin satu ketika dulu akibat kemiskinan telah memaksa mereka ini berhenti belajar dan kemudian bekerja untuk menyara hidup.

Langsung tidak terlintas dalam fikiran Henry Ford dan Walt Disney bahawa mereka akan menjadi begitu berjaya.

Apa yang berlaku kepada mereka ini akibat minat yang begitu mendalam dalam bidang yang mereka minati, membuka ruang untuk ia dieksploitasi hingga ke tahap maksimum dan akhirnya membuahkan hasil yang lumayan.

Mungkin jika kita sudah mengenalpasti minat dan kecenderungan yang boleh membuahkan hasil agak logik juga untuk berhenti belajar.

Tapi jika hanya sekadar mahu berhenti sebab malas dan kemudian berangan-angan untuk menjadi kaya pasti itu satu tindakan paling bodoh yang seseorang lakukan dalam hidupnya."

motivation theory for consultation

McClelland's Theory of Needs

In his acquired-needs theory, David McClelland proposed that an individual's specific needs are acquired over time and are shaped by one's life experiences. Most of these needs can be classed as either achievement, affiliation, or power. A person's motivation and effectiveness in certain job functions are influenced by these three needs. McClelland's theory sometimes is referred to as the three need theory or as the learned needs theory.

People with a high need for achievement (nAch) seek to excel and thus tend to avoid both low-risk and high-risk situations. Achievers avoid low-risk situations because the easily attained success is not a genuine achievement. In high-risk projects, achievers see the outcome as one of chance rather than one's own effort. High nAch individuals prefer work that has a moderate probability of success, ideally a 50% chance. Achievers need regular feedback in order to monitor the progress of their acheivements. They prefer either to work alone or with other high achievers.

Those with a high need for affiliation (nAff) need harmonious relationships with other people and need to feel accepted by other people. They tend to conform to the norms of their work group. High nAff individuals prefer work that provides significant personal interaction. They perform well in customer service and client interaction situations.

A person's need for power (nPow) can be one of two types - personal and institutional. Those who need personal power want to direct others, and this need often is perceived as undesirable. Persons who need institutional power (also known as social power) want to organize the efforts of others to further the goals of the organization. Managers with a high need for institutional power tend to be more effective than those with a high need for personal power.
Thematic Apperception Test

McClelland used the Thematic Apperception Test (TAT) as a tool to measure the individual needs of different people. The TAT is a test of imagination that presents the subject with a series of ambiguous pictures, and the subject is asked to develop a spontaneous story for each picture. The assumption is that the subject will project his or her own needs into the story.

Psychologists have developed fairly reliable scoring techniques for the Thematic Apperception Test. The test determines the individual's score for each of the needs of achievement, affiliation, and power. This score can be used to suggest the types of jobs for which the person might be well suited.
Implications for Management

People with different needs are motivated differently.


High need for achievement - High achievers should be given challenging projects with reachable goals. They should be provided frequent feedback. While money is not an important motivator, it is an effective form of feedback.

High need for affiliation - Employees with a high affiliation need perform best in a cooperative environment.

High need for power - Management should provide power seekers the opportunity to manage others.

Note that McClelland's theory allows for the shaping of a person's needs; training programs can be used to modify one's need profile.

Expectancy theory (vroom)

...assumes that behavior results from conscious choices among alternatives whose purpose it is to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. Together with Edward Lawler and Lyman Porter, Victor Vroom suggested that the relationship between people's behavior at work and their goals was not as simple as was first imagined by other scientists. Vroom realized that an employee's performance is based on individuals factors such as personality, skills, knowledge, experience and abilities.

The theory suggests that although individuals may have different sets of goals, they can be motivated if they believe that:

* There is a positive correlation between efforts and performance,
* Favorable performance will result in a desirable reward,
* The rewardwill satisfy an important need,
* The desire to satisfy the need is strong enough to make the effort worthwhile.

The theory is based upon the following beliefs:

Valence refers to the emotional orientations people hold with respect to outcomes [rewards]. The depth of the want of an employee for extrinsic [money, promotion, time-off, benefits] or intrinsic [satisfaction] rewards). Management must discover what employees value.

Employees have different expectations and levels of confidence about what they are capable of doing. Management must discover what resources, training, or supervision employees need.

The perception of employees as to whether they will actually get what they desire even if it has been promised by a manager. Management must ensure that promises of rewards are fulfilled and that employees are aware of that.

Vroom suggests that an employee's beliefs about Expectancy, Instrumentality, and Valence interact psychologically to create a motivational force such that the employee acts in ways that bring pleasure and avoid pain.

Herzberg's Motivation-Hygiene Theory (Two Factor Theory)

To better understand employee attitudes and motivation, Frederick Herzberg performed studies to determine which factors in an employee's work environment caused satisfaction or dissatisfaction. He published his findings in the 1959 book The Motivation to Work.

The studies included interviews in which employees where asked what pleased and displeased them about their work. Herzberg found that the factors causing job satisfaction (and presumably motivation) were different from those causing job dissatisfaction. He developed the motivation-hygiene theory to explain these results. He called the satisfiers motivators and the dissatisfiers hygiene factors, using the term "hygiene" in the sense that they are considered maintenance factors that are necessary to avoid dissatisfaction but that by themselves do not provide satisfaction.

The following table presents the top six factors causing dissatisfaction and the top six factors causing satisfaction, listed in the order of higher to lower importance.
Factors Affecting Job Attitudes

Leading to Dissatisfaction

Leading to Satisfaction


Company policy


Relationship w/Boss

Work conditions


Relationship w/Peers




Work itself




Herzberg reasoned that because the factors causing satisfaction are different from those causing dissatisfaction, the two feelings cannot simply be treated as opposites of one another. The opposite of satisfaction is not dissatisfaction, but rather, no satisfaction. Similarly, the opposite of dissatisfaction is no dissatisfaction.

While at first glance this distinction between the two opposites may sound like a play on words, Herzberg argued that there are two distinct human needs portrayed. First, there are physiological needs that can be fulfilled by money, for example, to purchase food and shelter. Second, there is the psychological need to achieve and grow, and this need is fulfilled by activities that cause one to grow.

From the above table of results, one observes that the factors that determine whether there is dissatisfaction or no dissatisfaction are not part of the work itself, but rather, are external factors. Herzberg often referred to these hygiene factors as "KITA" factors, where KITA is an acronym for Kick In The A..., the process of providing incentives or a threat of punishment to cause someone to do something. Herzberg argues that these provide only short-run success because the motivator factors that determine whether there is satisfaction or no satisfaction are intrinsic to the job itself, and do not result from carrot and stick incentives.
Implications for Management

If the motivation-hygiene theory holds, management not only must provide hygiene factors to avoid employee dissatisfaction, but also must provide factors intrinsic to the work itself in order for employees to be satisfied with their jobs.

Herzberg argued that job enrichment is required for intrinsic motivation, and that it is a continuous management process. According to Herzberg:


The job should have sufficient challenge to utilize the full ability of the employee.

Employees who demonstrate increasing levels of ability should be given increasing levels of responsibility.

If a job cannot be designed to use an employee's full abilities, then the firm should consider automating the task or replacing the employee with one who has a lower level of skill. If a person cannot be fully utilized, then there will be a motivation problem.

Critics of Herzberg's theory argue that the two-factor result is observed because it is natural for people to take credit for satisfaction and to blame dissatisfaction on external factors. Furthermore, job satisfaction does not necessarily imply a high level of motivation or productivity.

Herzberg's theory has been broadly read and despite its weaknesses its enduring value is that it recognizes that true motivation comes from within a person and not from KITA factors.

Douglas mcgregor - theory x y

Douglas McGregor's XY Theory, managing an X Theory boss.

Douglas McGregor, an American social psychologist, proposed his famous X-Y theory in his 1960 book 'The Human Side Of Enterprise'. Theory x and theory y are still referred to commonly in the field of management and motivation, and whilst more recent studies have questioned the rigidity of the model, Mcgregor's X-Y Theory remains a valid basic principle from which to develop positive management style and techniques. McGregor's XY Theory remains central to organizational development, and to improving organizational culture.

McGregor's X-Y theory is a salutary and simple reminder of the natural rules for managing people, which under the pressure of day-to-day business are all too easily forgotten.

McGregor's ideas suggest that there are two fundamental approaches to managing people. Many managers tend towards theory x, and generally get poor results. Enlightened managers use theory y, which produces better performance and results, and allows people to grow and develop.

McGregor's ideas significantly relate to modern understanding of the Psychological Contract, which provides many ways to appreciate the unhelpful nature of X-Theory leadership, and the useful constructive beneficial nature of Y-Theory leadership.

theory x ('authoritarian management' style)

* The average person dislikes work and will avoid it he/she can.
* Therefore most people must be forced with the threat of punishment to work towards organisational objectives.
* The average person prefers to be directed; to avoid responsibility; is relatively unambitious, and wants security above all else.

theory y ('participative management' style)

* Effort in work is as natural as work and play.
* People will apply self-control and self-direction in the pursuit of organisational objectives, without external control or the threat of punishment.
* Commitment to objectives is a function of rewards associated with their achievement.
* People usually accept and often seek responsibility.
* The capacity to use a high degree of imagination, ingenuity and creativity in solving organisational problems is widely, not narrowly, distributed in the population.
* In industry the intellectual potential of the average person is only partly utilised.

characteristics of the x theory manager

Perhaps the most noticeable aspects of McGregor's XY Theory - and the easiest to illustrate - are found in the behaviours of autocratic managers and organizations which use autocratic management styles.

What are the characteristics of a Theory X manager? Typically some, most or all of these:

* results-driven and deadline-driven, to the exclusion of everything else
* intolerant
* issues deadlines and ultimatums
* distant and detached
* aloof and arrogant
* elitist
* short temper
* shouts
* issues instructions, directions, edicts
* issues threats to make people follow instructions
* demands, never asks
* does not participate
* does not team-build
* unconcerned about staff welfare, or morale
* proud, sometimes to the point of self-destruction
* one-way communicator
* poor listener
* fundamentally insecure and possibly neurotic
* anti-social
* vengeful and recriminatory
* does not thank or praise
* withholds rewards, and suppresses pay and remunerations levels
* scrutinises expenditure to the point of false economy
* seeks culprits for failures or shortfalls
* seeks to apportion blame instead of focusing on learning from the experience and preventing recurrence
* does not invite or welcome suggestions
* takes criticism badly and likely to retaliate if from below or peer group
* poor at proper delegating - but believes they delegate well
* thinks giving orders is delegating
* holds on to responsibility but shifts accountability to subordinates
* relatively unconcerned with investing in anything to gain future improvements
* unhappy

how to manage upwards - managing your X theory boss

Working for an X theory boss isn't easy - some extreme X theory managers make extremely unpleasant managers, but there are ways of managing these people upwards. Avoiding confrontation (unless you are genuinely being bullied, which is a different matter) and delivering results are the key tactics.

* Theory X managers (or indeed theory Y managers displaying theory X behaviour) are primarily results oriented - so orientate your your own discussions and dealings with them around results - ie what you can deliver and when.
* Theory X managers are facts and figures oriented - so cut out the incidentals, be able to measure and substantiate anything you say and do for them, especially reporting on results and activities.
* Theory X managers generally don't understand or have an interest in the human issues, so don't try to appeal to their sense of humanity or morality. Set your own objectives to meet their organisational aims and agree these with the managers; be seen to be self-starting, self-motivating, self-disciplined and well-organised - the more the X theory manager sees you are managing yourself and producing results, the less they'll feel the need to do it for you.
* Always deliver your commitments and promises. If you are given an unrealistic task and/or deadline state the reasons why it's not realistic, but be very sure of your ground, don't be negative; be constructive as to how the overall aim can be achieved in a way that you know you can deliver.
* Stand up for yourself, but constructively - avoid confrontation. Never threaten or go over their heads if you are dissatisfied or you'll be in big trouble afterwards and life will be a lot more difficult.
* If an X theory boss tells you how to do things in ways that are not comfortable or right for you, then don't questioning the process, simply confirm the end-result that is required, and check that it's okay to 'streamline the process' or 'get things done more efficiently' if the chance arises - they'll normally agree to this, which effectively gives you control over the 'how', provided you deliver the 'what' and 'when'.

And this is really the essence of managing upwards X theory managers - focus and get agreement on the results and deadlines - if you consistently deliver, you'll increasingly be given more leeway on how you go about the tasks, which amounts to more freedom. Be aware also that many X theory managers are forced to be X theory by the short-term demands of the organisation and their own superiors - an X theory manager is usually someone with their own problems, so try not to give them any more.

See also the article about building self-confidence, and assertiveness techniques.

Theory z - william ouchi

First things first - Theory Z is not a Mcgregor idea and as such is not Mcgregor's extension of his XY theory.

Theory Z was developed by not by Mcgregor, but by William Ouchi, in his book 1981 'Theory Z: How American management can Meet the Japanese Challenge'. William Ouchi is professor of management at UCLA, Los Angeles, and a board member of several large US organisations.

Theory Z is often referred to as the 'Japanese' management style, which is essentially what it is. It's interesting that Ouchi chose to name his model 'Theory Z', which apart from anything else tends to give the impression that it's a Mcgregor idea. One wonders if the idea was not considered strong enough to stand alone with a completely new name... Nevertheless, Theory Z essentially advocates a combination of all that's best about theory Y and modern Japanese management, which places a large amount of freedom and trust with workers, and assumes that workers have a strong loyalty and interest in team-working and the organisation.

Theory Z also places more reliance on the attitude and responsibilities of the workers, whereas Mcgregor's XY theory is mainly focused on management and motivation from the manager's and organisation's perspective. There is no doubt that Ouchi's Theory Z model offers excellent ideas, albeit it lacking the simple elegance of Mcgregor's model, which let's face it, thousands of organisations and managers around the world have still yet to embrace. For this reason, Theory Z may for some be like trying to manage the kitchen at the Ritz before mastering the ability to cook a decent fried breakfast.

12 Hot Career - by Forbes Magazine

From: WWW.afterschool.com

The Forbes magazine recently listed 12 hot careers in years to come. According to them the advances in technology, changes in consumers habits, an aging population and increase in offshore jobs (outsourcing) are factors that contribute to dynamic job markets. Because of this, jobs that are popular one day can quickly become obsolete in the future. This list is done based on their research on the anticipated job openings from the American Department of Labour. So it might not be entirely relevant to us.

Business and Finance

1. Accountants and auditors

2. Financial examiners - people who ensure companies comply with financial-related laws.

3. Personal financial advisors - people who help clients do retirement planning and meet financial objectives. In Malaysia generally, our personal financial advisors start as insurance agents and then they move up by taking a Certified Financial Planner course.

4. General and operations Manager - managers who run the day-to-day operations of a company.

5. Management analyst - also known as management consultants, these are people who advise businesses on how to increase their efficiency. Some well-know management consultants are McKinsey, Boston Consulting Group and Binafikir (home grown).


6. Elementary school teachers - teachers in primary school level. This might not apply to Malaysia but it is interesting to note the recent increase in private schools. We have university colleges like UCSI and UCTI going into the private school business. Also two British boarding schools are headed to Malaysia, Epsom in Enstek, Sepang and Marlborough in Iskandar, Johor.

7. Post-secondary school teachers - academics in colleges and universities. With the number of new universities coming up in Malaysia, this is a new growth career. At our last count we have the following new universities coming to Malaysia within the next few years.

- Newcastle University Medice Malaysia - Iskandar, Johor
- Netherlands Maritime Institute of Technology - Iskandar, Johor
- Southampton University - Iskandar, Johor
- iCarnegie
- Premier International University Perak
- Manipal University

Health Care

8. Nurse - there is a large number of nurses locally but there are ample opportunities overseas.

9. Physician assistant - similar to hospital assistants in Malaysia, physician assistants provide similar health care service as physicians.

10. Medical scientist - the R&D guys in the medical field.


11. Network systems and data communications specialist - with businesses operating in different geographies, network specialist are important to manage a company's network.


12. Truck driver: heavy tractor trailer - the reason why trucking industry is big in USA is because of the size of the country.

7 perkara yang membuat anda bermotivasi di waktu pagi

sumber: iLuvislam (En. Shukri Abdullah)

Malas, lemah, penat, longlai adalah resam jika anda bukanlah berniat dengan penuh kesungguhan dan bersemangat untuk menikmati kebahagiaan di pagi hari.

Waktu pagi adalah ujian untuk anda, pagi adalah nikmat untuk anda, pagi adalah penentu arah kejayaan dan kegagalan dalam hidup anda.

Justeru itu adakah kita mahu mensia-siakannya?

Ayuh sahabat, bangkitlah! Perkara terbaik yang anda patut lakukan di waktu pagi, adalah:

01. Bersyukur, bersyukur, bersyukur
Bersyukurlah sebab anda masih diberi peluang untuk meneruskan hidup, anda juga masih ada kesempatan untuk melakukan yang terbaik hari ini, lebih baik dari yang kelmarin.

02. Tekad Bermotivasi
Pasang niat dalam hati yang anda mahu jadi bersemangat sepenuhnya. Ambil beberapa artikel-artikel motivasi pendek dan baca dalam seminit dua.

Di waktu awal pagi, jangan buka email, baca newspaper, baca gosip-gosip mahupun join sesi mengumpat bersama kawan-kawan. Sebab, ia menerbitkan energi negatif lalu menghalang anda dari bermotivasi sepanjang hari.

03. Dekatkan Diri Dengan Sesi Motivasi
Ikuti sesi-sesi motivasi di media, misalnya Motivasi Pagi di TV3 dan sesi motivasi Dr Izzy di Hot FM. Luangkan masa 3-5 minit memberi motivasi pada diri sendiri melalui sesi-sesi motivasi pendek ni.

Motivasi harus dijaga, sebab kalau tak di jaga ia mudah turun. Kesannya, anda menjadi tidak bersemangat, lemah longlai dan lemas.

04. Dalam Apa Jua Yang Anda Buat, Mulakan Dengan Bismillah
Bila anda mula punch card nak masuk kerja, baca bismillah, moga anda dijauhkan dari bisikan syaitan yang membuat anda lalai, mengantuk, macam tak cukup ‘cas betri’ saja.

Andai kata anda seorang pelajar, bermula dari nak masuk kelas, duduk di kerusi anda dan mula nak bukak buku, mulakan semuanya dengan bismillah. Moga apa jua yang anda lakukan mendapat keberkatan.

Masuk saje ke dalam kelas, pasang niat anda mahu menuntut ilmu. Bila istiqamah melakukannya, anda punya peluang cerah untuk menjadi cemerlang!

05. Set Target Kemajuan Diri Sendiri
Ini juga kurang dititikberatkan. Bila dah keluar rumah sama ada ke kelas atau ke tempat kerja, kita tak tahu apa yang kita nak capai hari tu. Betul tak?

Kita hanya nak sampai di sana, bekerja (atau menghadiri kelas) lepas tu nanti petang balik rumah, berehat, makan, minum, pastu tidur. Esok pagi, bangun dan perkara sama berulang lagi.

Hidup Anda bagai dalam 1 bulatan, situ-situ saja.

Mulai hari ini, ubah sikap anda. Set target apa yang anda mahu capai, lagi best setkan untuk setiap hari.

Andai anda seorang pelajar, set target berapa bab yang anda nak ulangkaji, berapa buah buku yang anda nak baca dalam minggu ni, berapa soalan anda nak bertanya pada lecturer atau guru anda nanti.

Andai anda seorang usahawan, set target berapa jualan yang anda nak capai hari ini dan berapa keuntungan yang anda nak dapat hasil dari bisnes anda. Set juga apa yang anda nak pelajari hari ni dalam bidang bisnes anda.

Andai anda seorang pekerja, set berapa tugas yang anda nak siapkan dan set limit masa untuk anda menyiapkan segalanya. Kecekapan seorang pekerja di nilai dari kepantasan, ketepatan dan kekemasan.

06. Lihat Warna Cerah
Warna boleh mempengaruhi mood. Warna cerah membuat kita jadi energetik, ceria dan penuh dengan idea.

Setiap hari, lihat warna-warna yang cerah seperti kuning, merah, biru dan hijau. Cara ni saya dah test sendiri, berkesan sungguh!

Dekatkan diri dengan benda-benda berwarna cerah sebab ia mampu merubah mood anda menjadi positif.

07. Penuhkan Hati Dengan Kemaafan
Lepaskan segala yang dulu-dulu. Maafkan orang diwaktu pagi, maafkan kesalahan semuanya dari dulu sampai sekarang.

Lepaskan dendam, rasa tak puas hati, geram, sakit hati dan yang sewaktu dengannya.

Andai emosi-emosi negatif ni bersarang di hati (walaupun sedikit) ia menghalang motivasi. Kesannya, anda jadi orang yang tak bersemangat langsung.

Lebih teruk, anda jadi orang yang berfikiran negatif, hanya nampak yang negatif dalam diri setiap orang, setiap situasi dan setiap benda.

Anda mesti berubah untuk kemajuan diri.

Berani Berubah Untuk Kecemerlangan Hidup.

Raya tahun ni

Setelah dua tahun beraya diperantauan, akhirnya saya kembali beraya di kampung halaman yang tercinta..perasaan sungguh teruja bermula seawal puasa yang pertama...2 tahun tidak beraya di kampung sendri bagai sudah lama tidak menyambut hari raya...namun sepanjang 2 tahun itu juga saya mengutip penglaman yang akan disimpan sehingga ke akhir hayat...nasib perantau sebagai pencari ilmu...pelajaran bukan hanya dikutip daripada ilmu pengetahuan yang disampaikan tapi juga melalui pengalaman semasa perjalanan mencarinya..

Sepanjang 2 tahun beraya diperantauan saya dipertemukan dengan 2 buah keluarga yang sudi membenarkan saya menumpang kasih di Aidilfitri...raya semester pertama saya telah beraya di Pulau Pinang iaitu rumah rakan saya Noraini Ahmad....keluarga ini banyak mengajar saya berdikari berada di tengah situasi yang serba baru..layanan santai yang membuatkan saya selesa dan bleh mengikuti setiap aktiviti tanpa berasa kekok...mak Aini merupakan seorang peniaga gigih yang berjaya mengeksport pelbagai jenis kerepek di sekitar Pulau Pinang...setiap kali hendak menyediakan juadah dia pasti akan mengajak saya untuk turut serta memasak sambil menerangkan resepi2 daripada Pulau Pinang....di Hari Raya saya telah menyertai robmbongan keluarga aini beraya di sekitar Pulau Pinang sebagai 'anak angkat tak rasmi"..hu3..boleh katakan semua rumah saudara mara dikunjungi..namun saya tidak pernah tersisih kerana layanan daripada keluarga Aini...hanya terima kasih dan doa yang dapat diberikan...

Raya seterusnya saya beraya di Parit Buntar Perak di rumah my classmate Suriyani Othman...sebenarnya saya ingin mengetahui bgaimana situasi beraya sebagai anak tunggal kerana saya dilahirkkan dalam keluarga yang agak besar..di sana saya hanya beraya bersama mak dengan pak teh (ayah dan mak su) dan su....memang agak berbeza...nampak lebih cool dan tersusun berbanding sambutan raya dlam keluarga saya..saya dilayan seperti anak sendiri...dihadiahkan sepasang baju raya yang dijahit sendiri oleh mak teh...dan di sini saya belajar bagaimana membuat kek coklat yang sunggu simple...tapi sedappp...hu3.

Dan raya kali ini saya sambut di kampung...trip yang sungguh mengujakan...bermula pada 2 hb september...kami bertolak pada pukul 5 petang ke KL selepas ujian EDU..rombongan kami ada 7 orang semuanya...dan semuanya adalah serumah...sampai di KL kami dimaklumkan akan bertolak pada pukul 8 ke LCCT..kami mengambil ruang di tepi-tepi jalan bersebelahan MYDIN untuk berehat dan sungkai...berbuka puasa ala kadar dengan panorama KL..tidak jauh daripada kami terdapat sekumpulan lelaki yang saya rasa pekerja Indonesia..mereka mengajak kami berbuka puasa sama2..namun kami menolak dengan baik kerana memikirkan keselamtan kami... beberapa org yang lalu lalang hanya memandang kami yang duduk bersila di atas jalan raya dengan pelbagai reaksi...

Tepat pukul 8 malam kami bertolak ke LCCT dan terpaksa bertukar bus di pertengahan jalan kerana beberapa masalah..kami tiba di LCCT pada pukul 11 malam dan bermalam di sana..kami mula sahur pada pukul 4 pagi kerana perlu ke balai berlepas lebih awal sblm penerbangan...setelah selesai semua urusan kami melabuhkan diri di balai berlepas...hu3..perjalan yang agak adventure bagi kami...namun Alhamdulillah kami berjaya sampai ke Sabah dengan selamat..

pengalaman ini tidak dapat diperolehi tanpa pengorbanan diri...pengalaman inilah yang mewarnai perjalan hidup hingga ke akhir hayat..kita berupaya mencorak hidup sama ada berseri ataupun kelam, semuanya di tangan kita dan hanya perlu kekuatan diri..bagaimana mendapat kekuatan diri jika kita tidak rela mengorbankan kesenangan?...berkorban sekarang utk masa depan...pengalaman ini juga membantu saya utk lebih bijak dalam mengadaptasi diri di tempat yang baru dan ketika berhadapan dengan ujian hidup...akhir kata Selamat Menyambut Hari Raya Aidilfitri...semoga cahaya kemenangan di Aidilfitri akan megiringi perjalanan hidup kita di dunia dan memberi keberkatan atas semua usaha yang dilaksanakan....ampunmaaf dipinta dari nur hatimu yang murni atas keizinanNYA...maaf zahir dan batin...


Pada kali ini saya bersama 8 orang rakan yang lain telah mengadakan program “BEYOND THE LIMIT FIRST CLASS STUDENT” di Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan Ampang Pecah pada 21 Ogos 2010 bermula pukul 8 pagi sehingga 12.30 tengah hari.

Sebelum program dijalankan kami telah mengunjungi kaunselor sekolah iaitu pihak yang berurusan dengan kami sepenuhnya untuk mendapatkan beberapa maklumat tentang golongan sasaran yang kami akan kendalikan dan membincangkan tentang kesesuaian tentative dan modul. Walaupun kami berhadap dengan kekangan masa kerana hanya diberi masa selama 4 jam sahaja, namun kami cuba menjalankan aktiviti dengan baik dan dapat melaksanakan semua modul mengikut masa yang telah ditetapkan. Kami juga amat gembira dengan kerjasama yang diberikan oleh para peserta walaupun mereka terdiri daripada pelbagai kaum dan kelas. Program yang dijalankan pada bulan puasa ini, banyak menguji kami dan juga peserta dan Alhamdulillah semuanya dapat menjalankan aktiviti walaupun kelihatan agak letih.

Tidak lupa juga ucapan terima kasih dengan kerjasama yang telah diberikan oleh pihak sekolah kepada kumpulan kami. Saya melihat sepanjang aktiviti dijalankan banyak guru-guru yang datang menjenguk dan kaunselor yang sentiasa berada di dalam dewan untuk memberikan bantuan tiap kali diperlukan. Saya juga rasa gembira dengan kerjasama yang diberikan oleh ahli-ahli kumpulan saya di mana mereka sangat bertungkus lumus untuk menjayakan program ini dan tetap tidak berputus asa walaupun berbagai masalah yang terpaksa kami hadapi.

Program Mengejar Pelangi dan Lailatul Ubudiyyah

Pada 6-8 Ogos yg lalu saya telah berkesempatan untuk meyertai sebuah program Mengejar Pelangi Impian dan Lailatul Ubidiyyah sebagai fasilitator di Sekolah Rendah Arab (JAIM)Batang Tiga Timur Melaka. Peserta terdiri daripada Tahun 4 - Tahun 6. kami bertolak daripada UPSI pada pukul 3 petang dan tiba tepat jam 7 malam di sekolah tersebut. kami disambut oleh beberapa orang guru termasuklah guru besar dan Ketua PIBG. Alhamdulillah, kami amat berterima kasih dengan layanan dan kerjasama yang diberikan oleh pihak sekolah. Bermula daripada kedatangan kami, kami telah disambut dengan baik, kemudahan-kemudahan program yang mencukupi, petempatan yang selesa dan juga makanan yang enak-enak sehinggalah lambaian terakhir mereka semasa kami bertolak balik ke Tanjung Malim.

Para peserta juga memberi kerjasama yang sangat baik walaupun mereka masih kelihatan amat muda untuk berdikari sendiri dengan bantuan guru-guru selama 3 hari 2 malam berkampung di sekolah. Walaupun mereka kelihatan agak letih kerana jadual program yang padat mereka tetap memberikan komitmen yang baik sehingga program berakhir.

Dalam berteman

Apabila kita ingin berteman,
Janganlah kerana kelebihannya,
Kerana mungkin dengan satu kelemahan,
Kita mungkin akan menjauhinya....

Andai kita ingin berteman,
Janganlah kerana kebaikannya,
Kerana mungkin dengan
satu keburukan, Kita akan

Andai kita inginkan sahabat yang satu,
Janganlah kerana ilmunya,
Kerana apabila dia buntu,
Kita mungkin akan memfitnahnya....

Andai kita inginkan seorang teman,
Janganlah kerana sifat cerianya,
Kerana andai dia tidak pandai
menceriakan, Kita mungkin akan

Andai kita ingin bersahabat,
Terimalah dia seadanya,
Kerana dia seorang sahabat, Yang hanya
manusia biasa.... Jangan diharapkan
sempurna, Kerana kita juga tidak

Ini kawan saya..hu3

Kem Kolumpang 2009....

Semua tentang kita..

Bertenang lebih baik dari tertekan

artikel drpd iMotivasi
penulis: Shueqry

Sebaik-baik cara untuk menangani stress adalah dengan bertenang. Sebab, dengan bertenang, minda dapat bekerja dengan lebih baik dan lebih efektif.
Bila stress, fikiran menjadi buntu, bingung dan keliru. Anda takkan tahu apa yang perlu di lakukan.

Kesannya, Anda cenderung melakukan kesilapan, lebih teruk lagi, melakukan kesalahan yang Anda kesali seumur hidup.

Cemana nak bertenang? Anda hanya perlu mengawal nafas lalu lupakan apa yang membuat Anda tertekan. Masalah kebanyakan orang, mereka tak mahu melupakan seketika apa yang membuat mereka tertekan.

Kita perlu buat muhasabah diri. Kita asyik tertekan sebab kita ada rasa marah dalam diri, ada something yang kita puas hati, maybe sebab kewangan, keluarga atau benda di tempat kerja yang membuat kita geram sendiri.

Kita perlu sentiasa istighfar dan maafkan orang lain, situasi, benda, perkara serta diri sendiri. Memaafkan diri sendiri dapat membuang rasa marah, selepas tu membuang rasa tertekan, membuat kita ‘immune’ dari stress.

Stress boleh dielak bila kita tahu caranya. Paling asas adalah dengan melatih diri supaya bertenang. Kalau boleh, biarkan rasa tenang tu wujud dari pagi hingga ke malam hari.

Hidup lebih lancar bila kita tenang, relaks, be in control. Orang-orang yang berjaya dalam pelajaran, kerjaya dan bisnes adalah mereka yang melatih diri untuk sentiasa bertenang kerana mereka tahu, rasa tertekan hanya akan menahan diri mereka dari mencapai kejayaan.

Hidup ini satu pertaruhan

Hidup ini satu pertaruhan,
Yang perlu membuat pelbagai pilihan,
Pilihan yang memerlukan keberanian,
Untuk menerima setiap kenyataan,

Jika kenyataan memeritkan,
Kita mula menyalahkan pilihan,
Yang akhirnya tercipta lagi satu kesalahan,
Kenapa tidak kita jadikan iktibar,
Sebagai pengajaran daripada kegagalan,

Walau apapun kenyataan,
kita perlu membuat pilihan,
Buatlah sehabis baik walaupun ia menyakitkan,
Daripada menanggung di kemudian,

Pilihan ini kita tentukan kerana
kita tahu sebab dan alasan,
Orang lain boleh pertikaikan sebagai pembetulan,
Tapi tak layak pandang sinis kesian,

Teruskan juang usaha,
Jika kita tahu Dia bersama,
Setelah kita serahkan sepenuhnya,
Hidup kerana DIa,
Bukan kata-kata....

artikel 1

Hari ini selepas mengikuti kuliah pertama daripada Dr.Malek terasa bagai ada sesuatu yang mula timbul dalam diri...satu persoalan tentang kepentingan masa..Dr.Malek selalu menyebut tentang perkara sia-sia yang menyebabkan kita banyak terhenti membuang masa..

"Sekarang ni, banyak perkara yang perlu kita fikirkan berbanding memikirkan perkara yang tidak sepatutnya"

antara lain menurutnya...kita leka memerhati dan mengata kejelikkan orang lain sedangkan ia tidak sekalipun memberi apa-apa makna dalam kehidupan melainkan mendapat kerugian di sisi Tuhan...perkara yang sepatutnya difikirkan hilang kerana leka memikirkan perkara yang tiada hubungkait pun dalam kehidupan...

Hidup ini singkat untuk kita lalui dan mengumpul pengalaman..berapa banyak masa kita yang terbuang hanya untuk membenci orang, betapa banyak masa yang terbuang hanya untuk mentertawakan kesilapan orang lain, dan betapa banyak masa yang terbazir akibat kemarahan...kita leka memikirkan kemarahan kita yang berapi-api terhadap orang lain tanpa memikirkan yang orang kita juga pernah membuat orang marah, kita leka mentertawakan kesilapan orang lain tanpa menggunakan masa tersebut untuk membetulkan kesilapan sendiri...kita leka mengata orang tanpa memikirkan tanggungjawab kita yang tertinggal dan banyak cacat cela..

apa salahnya kita gunakan masa yang ada untuk merebut sebanyak-banyaknya pengalaman hidup yang berharga, mengutip ilmu dari pelbagai sumber untuk memajukan diri...apa salahnya kita menghulurkan kemaafan tiap-tiap kesalahan agar masa kita tidak terbuang untuk membenci dan memikirkan tentang kesilapan orang lain terhadap kita yang entah disengajakan atau tidak...gunakanlah masa yang ada ini untuk berbakti dan diisi dengan pelbagai pahit panis sebuah perjuangan kehidupan dan mengumpul ilmu Tuhan yang betaburan di sana-sini...

bagaimana ingin memenuhkan masa yang singkat ini?...sibukkanlah dirimu dengan menimba ilmu tentang dunia dan akhirat... di dunia ini selain mengutip ilmu buat panduan kehidupan, kita juga perlu berbakti kepada diri sendiri dan masyarakat...saling bantu-membantu dengan ikhlas...kita perlu sntiasa menyedarkan diri akan hakikat tanggungjawab kita terhadap diri dan orang lain...kita ikhlaskan diri kerana Allah...kita diberikan ilmu untuk membantu bukannya berdiri gah seorang diri, tapi memimpin mereka yang memerlukan bersama-sama..

kita juga jangan pernah lupa untuk menimba amal untuk bekalan di akhirat...biasakan diri melaksanakan tugas dengan 'membawa Allah bersama'...'membawa Allah bersama' ialah amal ma'ruf nahi mungkar...tunaikan perintah Allah dan hindari larangan Allah...setiap detik kita berfikir sematkan DIA dalam diri...bila ingin meminta sesuatu pintahlah dariNYA terlebih dahulu..

Dalam riwayat selain al-Tirmizi, hadis berbunyi: Peliharalah Allah, nescaya engkau akan dapatiNya di hadapan engkau. Kenalilah Allah ketika senang, nescaya Dia akan mengenalimu di ketika susah. Ketahuilah bahawa apa-apa yang (ditakdirkan) tidak menimpamu, ia tidak akan menimpamu. Dan apa-apa yang menimpamu bukannya ia tersilap menimpamu. Ketahuilah bahawa kemenangan itu ada bersama kesabaran, terlepas dari kesempitan itu ada bersama kesusahan dan bersama kesusahan itu ada kesenangan.

bila diri terasa lemah pula pintalah kekuatan dariNYA..bukan hanya tahu menyalahkan takdir tanpa mahu untuk berusaha mengubah atau memperbaikinya...dan sekali lagi masa kita terbuang jika hanya duduk merenung kegagalan tanpa mahu bergerak walaupun hanya sebatang jari...


لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَ أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنتُ مِنْ الظَّالِمِينَ
Maksudnya: “Sesungguhnya tiada Tuhan (yang dapat menolong) melainkan Engkau (ya Allah)! Maha Suci Engkau (daripada melakukan aniaya, tolongkanlah daku)! Sesungguhnya aku adalah dari orang-orang yang menganiaya diri sendiri”

renungkanlah jika kita menggunakan 4 jam sehari hanya untuk bertengkar atau merungut tentang orang yang membuat kita marah, berapa banyakkah masa yang kita telah 'korbankan' dalam usia 30 tahun hanya untuk bertengkar...seperti kata DR.Malek...maafkan sahaja orang tersebut, jimat masa...x payah nak fikir banyak2 lagi...sebab kita masih banyak perkara yang perlu dfikirkan...

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